Introduction
Last month, I reached out to reschedule a few appointments, and I want to express my heartfelt thanks to everyone for your genuine concern for my well-being. Your support means the world to me, and for those who chose other stylist options, I truly appreciate your understanding.
For those unfamiliar, PMDD stands for Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder, a severe form of PMS that can cause significant emotional and physical challenges. As a beauty and wellness provider, this condition can sometimes impact my energy and emotional balance, making it tough to create the uplifting experiences you all deserve.
The Challenge of Empathy in Professional Services
I don't understand the lack of empathy for someone providing you with top-quality beauty services. Why would you want me to come in when I'm unwell? It doesn't matter because I've realized I must care for myself. I put my all into this business and my craft; you all deserve to have me at my best. I understand that life happens to everyone, and people should be given a chance – including me.
Personal Journey With PMDD
I have PMDD. Mayo Clinic defines this as Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) is a severe, sometimes disabling extension of premenstrual syndrome (PMS). Although PMS and PMDD both have physical and emotional symptoms, PMDD causes extreme mood shifts that can disrupt daily life and damage relationships. Every month for 14-21 days, I experience extreme PMS symptoms, ranging from exhaustion to dissociation. I struggle with masking my symptoms to do my job, and as a proud millennial, I am over trying to fake it like I’m okay. For example, so last month, my day started with a very low mood, and I knew something wasn’t right when I woke up covered in sweat. My stomach was not agreeable, but I pushed on anyway. I made breakfast, walked with Lola (my senior doggie), noticed I was spacing out, and then the cramps came. These are not just regular cramps; these are cramps that I can feel from my pelvis, up my back, and down my legs. As I was trying to get dressed, my legs gave out, I hunched over, and felt nauseous. I felt the headache coming, so I took pain meds, grabbed my water, heating pad, magnesium, and Kindle, and laid down, only to wake up 3 hours later not able to move due to pain and thoughts that standing up again would make it worse. So I just laid there in tears, but I was afraid those tears would make the headache worse. These are the PG-rated details: picture a dragon emerging from within me and attempting to disregard it.
The Monthly Transformation
Living with PMDD (Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder) feels like transforming each month, not unlike a werewolf. This vivid comparison emphasizes the intensity and unpredictability of the symptoms.
The cycle of symptoms is closely tied to the lunar phases, with the waning crescent marking the onset of a challenging period. This cyclic nature has led to over a decade of meticulous tracking to anticipate and manage the onset of symptoms.
Fatigue sets in despite a full night's sleep, making it difficult to maintain energy levels. This physical exhaustion is one of the many manifestations of PMDD.
Mental agility takes a hit; tasks that require quick thinking become more challenging, illustrating the cognitive impact of PMDD.
Current Coping Mechanisms and Awareness
Throughout time, different strategies like using caffeine to fight off tiredness and engaging in self-care routines to alleviate emotional and physical strain have been adopted.
Techniques for recognizing and handling the discomfort and symptoms have evolved, yet achieving wellness is still a lengthy process.
Understanding from clients is important because:
The cyclical nature of PMDD means that there are predictable periods of reduced performance and an increased need for support.
Knowledge of the condition can foster empathy, allowing for adjustments or accommodations that can make a significant difference in managing workload and expectations.
Open communication about the challenges can lead to a more supportive and productive working relationship, recognizing when flexibility is necessary.
Bridging Beauty and Wellness
Like my beauty coaching in the salon, I am all about getting to the root cause. If you don’t know this, I am studying beauty and wellness in college. I study all the elements associated with total well-being with the support and guidance of the beauty professional and the medical professional or path you choose. I’ve returned to college to further my knowledge and add wise practice to my learning. Thus far, I have been super motivated to change the direction of my business to not only provide superior service to my clients but also be able to practice what I preach, which is knowing myself and doing what is best for your body through the knowledge of beauty. I love being an artist and creating beautiful looks, too, but this is impossible without being healthy. As a wise athlete once said, “You can’t out train and shitty diet” - Steve “Stone Cold” Austin.
Changes at Grand Textures Salon
How am I different from an athlete besides the arena I choose to showcase my sport? A lot, but still, I have to use my body to do my job, and how can I advise you all on “finding the root” if I am ignoring my own body? Getting advice from someone not walking the talk doesn't make sense. I am dedicated to finding a new way to be a cosmetologist, and it starts with being healthy, so please have grace.
What does this mean?:
Grand Textures Salon's schedule will be changing to accommodate my health needs
Packages that encourage our health and slowing down will become the main focus
Saturdays are designated for group bookings of three, as well as special requests such as custom creations or packages.
Conclusion: A Call for Support and Understanding
I understand the pain I go through with PMDD isn't something I face alone; many others struggle with PCOS, Endometriosis, and Menopause. That's why I've made an effort to ensure the salon is as relaxing and accommodating as possible. To support both our mental and physical well-being, I've crafted packages designed to help us feel and perform our best. I deeply empathize with everyone's situation, and I hope we can rely on each other for support and exchange knowledge on how best to assist one another through our various challenges.
I'm eager to learn how you manage your well-being amidst life's responsibilities and obstacles. Let's make a point to discuss this during your next visit so we can brainstorm support strategies for your upcoming self-care session. My journey to redefine my role as a cosmetologist starts with a commitment to health, and I'm hopeful you'll join me as we navigate these changes together.
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